I was in a marriage for almost 30 years, that was emotionally distant for more than half that time. Now I've been separated for several years with no thought of going back. I'm finding that contemplating the notion of a romance is very appealing, but I know that I don't want to commit to a real relationship again. My nature is to slip into 2nd rank when I'm in a relationship and I can only be my own person when not tied to somebody else. But before marriage, the end point, the driving force, of dating was to find that one special someone and get married. Not that it's not what I'd want, and I know it up front - dating would seem like a very strange thing to do. And yet I'm drawn to the idea -- I think it's how we are wired.
--Linda