I don't know what the "right" thing to say would be, I'm not sure there is a right thing to say. I'm sure she will be glad to see you and that in itself is a wonderful gift.

Recently a dear family friend died after a very long battle with cancer. Towards the end she had upwards of 30-40 visitors a day. When Anne could still speak, she'd say, "I love my company. I love my company." The family thought it might be too much (I would have thought so too) but she insisted that she loved her company and she wanted them there and so it was.

One of the things that she particulary enjoyed was having her favorite songs sung to her. When she could still speak (albeit very softly in her weakened condition), she sang or hummed along. When she could no longer speak, her eyes spoke for her. When that was difficult, she squeezed hands...eyes closed, mostly unresponsive.

So...in answer to your post, I'm not supporting anyone right now. I do know it's heartbreaking and if you have posted about who I think you have, I'm imagining there will be a bit of joy wrapped up in there too..she's been a trooper and I imagine she will be no matter what comes. Let her talk, you'll know what to say or do when you are there. Isn't there a passage in the Bible where Jesus sends his men out and tells them that He will guide them in what to say and do? I don't know if that will help you, but it does for me when I find myself in uncomfortable but loving situations (hospitals, funeral visits, after funeral visits). I"m not trying to tell you what to do and I know you are much more familiar with those kinds of things than I am...it's just something that has helped me and maybe will help you too.

Michelle