I should also add that after several hours (between the custody and the fuss about getting the child some help) of listening and talking and listening more, I have been loving and kind and also bluntly honest with her. I haven't sugar coated anything. I have also tried to light a fire under her rear to get her moving to do SOMETHING, ANYTHING. It appears that is helping even though I don't like doing it. What are best friends for if not to lean on and kick you in the ass when you really need it and then give you a hug?