This is for you, and not about your firend. It may be helpful to you to remind yourself of your own boundaries--to remind yourself of the limits of your own power, and that we can never shoulder the burden of another's pain, or 'fix' another person's life. You can support her by validating how very difficult things are for her right now, and you can affirm and be a cheerleader. But we are always on the sidelines when it comes to the lives of other people. We will experience much less frustration when we don't see movement in the direction WE tthink should happen if we can remember that. We are much less likely to withdraw what actual support we can effectively offer if we are not so invested in the outcome that we risk feeling like a failure ourselves if the person doesn't get unstuck.