Lizzie.
Very simple question.
You seem to be having an Internet affair with someone in Canada called "Sam"....(Yes I have seen the web site.....Yuch!)
Surely you should be talking to your husband and children about this sad situation before telling the world about it....
The rest of us don't want to know....
Good luck with your future. .....Oh and don't mention SOH again...They are Crap.