"I have a friend who plays the Saxophone, and I don't like the sound that instrument makes. When I told her that, she went nuts and told me how wrong I am etc."

I think what you're really looking at here is that your friend is hearing something different from what you are saying. You've said that you don't like the sound of the saxaphone. What she is hearing is that you don't like the sound SHE makes when she is playing the saxaphone. Is it possible that she's feeling personally rejected?