But Spaw, you are also one of the quickest and nicest welcomers here-- when you groan it just doesn't have as much sting as when it comes from someone who usually lurks then posts pissy objections to same-old same-olds.

I would also point out that in that first flush of newness, you really don't even know what the place is or how it's so elegantly fashioned to let you use it gracefully--- what has helped me the most with that has actually BEEN the same-old same-old threads, where veterans post clickies to the old stuff or say how to go look up topics. It's a BIG candy store-- you can fall into a sugar swoon at the first counter and never make it back to the *rear* section!

~~Soft smiles~~