Sharon, I think I'm going to springboard from my 1-4 as above, to your assessment of the phrasing, and go to:

"This is a Level ___ Screwing," meaning I will no longer look to how bad I think I was screwed, but how far long the line of dealing with it I think I am. (Internal talking to Self, in place of accusing Other.) I have a feeling that the Level 1 stuff feels so bad when it happens partly because it always seems so shocking, and has not yet been worked through or been subjected to getting older, wiser, sadder, and-- sometimes-- meaner. :~)

~Susan