"Ah yes..Joan/Ruth...good to see you being personal again though"

How was I any more personal than you? I simply used your real name, just as you did mine. Except that I'm not hiding my identity - everyone knows who I am, and I'm not ashamed of it.

"this 'let's try and embarrass her and drag her personal life out all over messageboards..."

No, love. You did that all by yourself.