The Mudcat Café TM
Thread #99502   Message #1986350
Posted By: Little Hawk
04-Mar-07 - 08:30 PM
Thread Name: BS: psychotherapy/counselling
Subject: RE: BS: psychotherapy/counselling
Hey, Cruiser...women, in my experience, are MORE strong-willed than men about anything they really care about. Sometimes about trivial things too. ;-) The "silent" treatment is a devastating tactic indeed, and a very effective one. You have to be totally insensitive to be immune to its effects, and relatively few men are totally insensitive...heh! (I couldn't help thinking of Shane as I typed that. He IS totally insensitive.)

Now here's my take on it. A lot of people have depression. My guess is that at least 50% of the people in our society suffer from depression sometimes, and 50% of those suffer from it a great deal of the time to the point that it really messes up their lives. But....I don't think it's due to bad genes or chemical imbalance.

Nope. I think it's due either to:

1. Things that are actually going on in the person's life which make that person feel powerless, thwarted, or blocked...and which that person can't find a solution for or figure out how to cope with.

2. Emotional damage that the person suffered in childhood and suppressed, instead of dealing with it in a healthy way. Again...the child was usually feeling powerless, thwarted, mistreated, and blocked....usually by other people...and could not find a solution. The child coped by holding in the anger, humiliation, frustration, and hurt and buried it deep. This later comes out in all kind of nasty ways, and depression is just one of them. It also causes a variety of both minor and major physical ailments, and it causes a lot of violence, law-breaking, addiction, emtional violence, and negative behaviour of all kinds.

Now a therapist, if he or she is a good one, has the job of helping a person bring forth those things and clear them out of the system and find more healthy ways of emotionally coping.

I am not a bit surprised that many people are depressed. It would be more surprising if they weren't. As for the chemical imbalances, in my opinion they are usually an aftereffect OF the depressed thinking patterns affecting the body, rather than the other way around.