Lizzie, it's not a case of "use him to get at her". Nor is it a case of whether someone likes the sites or not.

The website is full of stolen content. You were the one who posted links to it all over the folk messageboards, so you clearly wanted to draw attention to it. The material on it is there illegally.

You still haven't managed to defend this - it's just people "getting at you". His world may be a million miles away from mine, but I suspect that litigation exists there, too. There's no hatred or malace here, apart from what's in your own head. And I'm telling you this for Sam's own good: get him to at least put in proper attributions, so that the original authors, or at least websites, are credited for their work. Otherwise he might find the whole site closed down one day because one of the people whose work has been stolen complains to his ISP. And what a waste of all his time and effort that would be...