I've been absent a while, but am glad to hear the resolution of this situation. What an ordeal. So happy to learn that you survived it with flying colors despite the obstacles you faced. You did stand up to the disbelieving doctors. It's often said that these days a patient must be his/her own advocate. What a shame. Personally, I miss the Marcus Welby, M.D. days. (For those of you outside of the U.S., it was a medical drama in which the doctors went out of their way to deliver premium patient care.)
When I was younger, doctors got to know their patients and their families. Because you usually had the same physician for most of your or their life, changes were noticed...notes were better kept...things were more caringly done. Now, you barely know the person who's treating you or vice versa. Progress, indeed?
On a brighter note, in my area, there is now a young doctor who is making house calls. He's done so well, that he's expanding his territory and even considering franchising his business. He seems like a nice guy on paper...there was a news article on him. I hope it catches on.

At any rate, Gizmo, make sure you write all of this down, for future reference, and in case you decide to litigate. Really, when you're better enough to come back to Mudcat, all you'd have to do is copy and paste? And then stick on a floppy or whatever. I almost forgot to mention that in one sense, you're lucky that they spelled out the adverse possibilities of surgery...many gloss them over, however, in your case, it almost sounds as if they were trying to discourage you from proceeding. I applaud you for standing up to them despite your decided disadvantage and debilitation. You shouldn't have had to do that...imagine, as I'm sure you have, what would have happened if you'd have taken that one doctor's advice to come back in 8 weeks? (And, thankfully, you had that one anesthesiologist to calm your fears somewhat.)
Still, you are better. Thank heavens! Best wishes for a speedy recovery! ;D