What if American or Israeli leaders had enough flexibility to propose a meeting and some direct talks with the leaders of Iran in some neutral location? Or in Iran itself? Would that not be a more useful tactic than trying to scare the Iranians into submitting to a list of foreign threats and demands? When you try to scare people, they usually get more defensive and more bellicose than they were before. Direct face-to-face contact between politicians who talk to each other as equal human beings can go a long way toward establishing mutual respect and defusing a crisis. Why has no one even proposed such a meeting? Too proud? Don't want to risk actually finding a solution???

Is the other guy not human enough to even talk to, for heaven's sake?

It takes one person to decide to open a dialogue. Just one. Where is that one person right now?