Naw, I just get them online too!
And I have been assured that one's 3D love can do things one's virtual loves cannot, and encouraged to play and seek things I need to bring back into our 3D world. It helps that I am extremely open with my partner about my online activities (so be advised, all you 'CatPals o' Mine!). So the occasional neglect, perceived or actual, doesn't last very long.
'Course I waited till I was nearly 40 to pick the winner. And I tend that 3D love with care and intention, too.