LOL, Susan. Don't feel sorry for those soaperstars. Rest assured there are still plenty of dumb, attractive soaper dopers out there for them. Remember, you're on the Net 'cause you can spell!
I once had a girlfriend complain "You love that truck more than you love me." I responded "And ... ?"
Computer time vs. family time is not so much how much as when. Your own time, whenever it is, is your time. Just don't put the kids to bed early so you can have more "time to your self".