Well, Hazel - the dominating, destructive God doesn't seem to jive with the God of the New Testament. In Matthew 25, Jesus does speak of condemnation - of people who oppress the poor and the hungry. Those who enter heaven are those who feed the hungry, give drink to the thirsty, welcome the stranger, clothe the naked, care for the sick, and visit the imprisoned. Notice that it doesn't say anything about sexual orientation or conduct, or about obedience to authority. Two millenia of believers have believed that this is what God wants them to do, so at least there's some historical precedent. And yes, two millenia of others have added a lot of garbage to the requirements.

-Joe-