"If there is a God. He's sadistic bastard."
"(He) allows them to shed responsibility for their actions"

These are themselves devices used to avoid considering that human atrocities and travesties are of human making. (Assuming there is a large-G God), why should he step in and bail us out every time we screw up? Where I come from we call that bludging. You, as an individual, learn as you grow to take responsibilty for your actions (or lack of action), and we, as humans have to learn to do the same. It's up to us, and the fact or fiction of a God has nothing to do with it.

Natural disasters are another matter, but once again He can't be expected to give us a life through which we are always wrapped safely in his omniprotection.
What would be the use of life like that? Is that really what you would expect of a benevolent God? Seems to me as if it would be pretty crappy.