Thank you Zi, I agree. Whoever that is up there can go fly kites in his own wind.

Maybe the gap between my mother's teeth explains why she and dad were each other's first, last and only for over 40 years til dad died? Smile...and my mom was one of the worlds kindest, gentlest, caring souls I've ever known and she said...

'You know, sis (to me) I never thought I was prejudiced, but when you were dating (a black man) I was terrified that you would marry him. I guess because then your babies wouldn't really ever look like your dad or me, or any others of our family.'

She also told me once that she knew it was irrational but she was very afraid of black men, especially when meeting a large black man on the street, either daylight or dark, but mostly after dark.

This, from a woman whose next door neighbors for years were a very large black man, his white wife and their two beautiful children. I didn't know any of this at that time...it was only years and years later that mom confessed. Ya gotta admit, she tried.