GregF - find the humor in it or go nuts is pretty normal thinking. Just because it's tragic doesn't mean it can't be made fun of... the trick is to try not to make fun of anything to the faces of those who haven't been able to laugh yet. I don't think anybody's telling VA Tech jokes yet - but I heard the first Challenger joke before the wreckage had all hit the ground.
Who was it said tragedy+time=comedy?