Most of us women, Don, hope that we still have men's respect, and we also respect most men. This harking back to a code of manners, which in many cases is still in existence, just avoids remembering the real and life affecting issues that feminists, especially back in the seventies, were actually concerned about.

Along with the 'code of respect', there were the men who catcalled at women walking alone, the extreme difficulty in prosecuting rapists if you weren't a veritable pillar of respectability, the denial of jobs, the inequality of pay, the stigmatization of single mothers, the firing of pregnant women (married or not) as soon as a pregnancy was visible, the 'rule of thumb' regarding how big a stick you could beat your wife with, the banks refusing to give women loans, a medical establishment that would not issue birth control to even a married woman without her husband's consent...

Does anyone want those days back? I don't. I find most men are still polite to me, and I am polite to them. They hold doors, I hold doors; they offer seats to people who need them more, so do I. It is the courtesy of equality. If you occasionally meet a woman who is waspish about common courtesy, then she is an ignorant woman, and she is not an informed feminist.