Hi Dave, from one of the three. It sounds like it's gradually coming together, and with your sense of humour intact, too!

What you are doing, looking for the positives, is a big part of the healing, and is one of the reasons you have exceeded expectations. In that way, you are already in front. Good things are happening, and will continue to happen, because you are in the right frame of mind. You can stop and take a breath now - the worst is over.

As for perfection - I find it's vastly overrated. I tend to look at my scars and imperfections now as part of who I am. I wear them proudly as a sign that I have been out there playing the game of life, engaging in the battles and winning them. I was surprised at how easy it was to accept some things being less than perfect - not the big deal I thought it would be. So what if I have trouble picking up a small object between the thumb and forefinger of my left hand? I can do all the really important things I want to do - that's all that matters.

You'll do fine. You will wear your battle scars with pride, and continue to be a perfect you.