Seems to me this discussion is music related in that we have had great discussions on songs with hurtful venacular and whether it is appropriate to use those terms nowadays or to change the words so that they do not offend. Most recent I can think of was on "coon songs". While the old words may have been the "truth" of their age, the "truth" now, is that they are hurtful and denigrating, so singing them doesn't seem very compassionate no acceptable to a lot of audiences. Just an example, IMO.

As to flipping a coin, I was always taught and still practise, that there is always a third alternative, that we are never confronted with an "either or", much as I hope we can find so for the Mudcat.

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