Thank you stallion. I was more thinking at this repetition of the problems with clubs than sessions, although I agree my posting had not originally been structured with that in mind. Although session manners can put people of folking, here I was more thinking of my daughter's views that she does get put off by excessive compliment (not all compliment, just excessive ones) - and also wants unamplified traditional song (ideally with harmony) in "clubs", not open mic snigger snogwriters.

So maybe the way to get the 20-somethings in is not to go too far down the Seth Lakeman route. Capable though he is I feel he has moved too far from folk to be called folk, and a folk club needs to do what it says on the tin.