very rude guest! Poppagator has written some things about music, and it IS hard to understand all this other nonsense.

It is offensive, if you're a man. In romantic matters, one is often expected to be the initiator - and its hard to get the attitude right - nobody pleases everybody.

some members have obviously found some of the things said not just offensive, but upsetting. Whatever her age and condition, she should be more careful of others' feelings. Some people are on their own and vulnerable, and basic courtesy costs nothing.

I just wish we could talk about music onthis thread. The Countess has obviously lived through some great evenings in folk clubs and met some great artists - perhaps known them as friends. It would nice to share some of her thoughts on that - rather than this other squabbling, which I find disturbing,