The discharge from hospital to nursing home is a tricky one - the hospital will want the bed free and nursing homes are in the main for long term residential care, we enquired at the time and not one home would admit to being qualified to offer palliative care to a close terminal patient.

They could have lied to get the fees, but we made it clear to them that our Da wasn't being sent to a nursing home to die in the next couple of weeks and we would have took him home instead. He couldn't even lift himself an inch towards the end and the hoisting equipment in the hospital was necessary - he was a strapping big guy and a couple of barely qualified nursing home assistants would not have been let near him by us.

They may be being generous with your Da's prospects so you won't push for a hospice - as they are usually full. Or some kind of miracle may have occurred.

Like I said above, it took every ounce of our collective strength to fight for our Da to die with dignity and pain free. I wish you the same strength.