"Y'know, for a self-proclaimed Third Wave feminist and a geek I'm scarily into domestic bliss..."

It is perfectly legit to be a feminist who's into domestic bliss. One of the goals of feminism is to allow a woman to be what she wants to be.

Making quilts is more art than housework. Isn't it liberating to create your own art?

Best of luck to you, your quilt, and the baby to come.