"How" is to save them for swapping with others who went through a similar time or experience-- then they're "war stories" and people may either laugh, weep, punch your lights out, or whatever incl. all of the above-- all in good hearty fellowship.

Same thing about any trauma. You oughtta hear the jokes in the hearses, after the funerals. Soimetimes ya just gotta blow in a safe place with people who get it.

~S~