"...while the deaths of innocents when one is attacking a military target, while extremely regretable and to be prevented when possible, is not immoral."

You're right, we do not agree. I think the war in Iraq is immoral and nothing justifies the death of children.

To draw a fine line such as you have done, only convinces me that you think that you are in a position to dictate moral circumstances. According to your religion, it may be moral to kill little children under some circumstances. According to my religion, its immoral to kill anyone, especially little children.