Hi Guys, I'm wanting a bit of advice from the wonderful store of knowledge and wisdom which is the Mudcat!
I think my partner has cheated on me! I'm mostly unhappy that he hasn't told me as we have quite an open relationship. I'm also worried for the woman in question, she seems to have a lot of emotional problems and depression, and something like this could hurt her badly. She did go on two dates with him before he and I got together, but nothing else as they were not right for each other. Since then he has flirted with her a lot, both when I am around, and when I'm not, but since he does that with every woman he meets I wasn't too worried.
I was away this weekend, visiting my family, and when he called me on Saturday night he told me he had been to this womans flat for a meal. Nothing suspicious there, she is always asking him round, and he has to go from time to time otherwise she gets weepy and starts telling all of our friends what a dreadful person he is.
When I got back last night he told me that they had seen a couple of films, and eaten a meal together. All quite inncouous, but he then said that when an old friend had called him, and in the course of the conversation asked him if he had a girlfriend. He replied, that yes, he did have someone, and named me. When he got off the phone the woman he was with went crazy at him. Now it isn't like she didn't know, we have been together for three months, and he told her himself (I was there!).
So why did she get so upset? It just felt wrong to me, I am a naturally suspicious person mind you. But this morning I noticed that he had tried to delete his chat log. Curiouser and curiouser.... So I did a bit of digging and found that he hadn't actually deleated anything, just hidden it, although he believes that it is gone for good.
This is the transcript, which I have annotated as I was feeling vengeful. However I have no evidence that any of the activities which were mentioned actually took place. He might have been being nasty to her, building her up, then letting her down. Or he might be teasing me with it, trying to gode me (paranoid!).
What should I do? Confront him with it, or gather more evidence first?
All submissions greatfully recieved.
Also if anyone has an idea for a song about the situation, possibly involving naked twister I'd love to hear it!