Hobbit......well he is an older man and thinks the term boyfriend is a bit twee. I usually say partner since we are both still married to other people. Apparently we are the height of trendiness as we maintain separate homes, mine in hawick, Allans in Selkirk...living appart together is the term in current usage. We've both done the married thing, Allan three times!!!! so we won't bother....I'm in no rush to divorce my ex, we get on better now.