My wife & I both dance, I for a ring side (sword team) her for a Fed side (N/W). We don't particularly want to dance together, neither do I particularly want my side to be mixed.
But when the team are invited to a ring, or ring type do, my feeling is that if it's not good enough for my wife to attend, then it's not good enough for me. So I wont go to weekends where wifes are excluded from 'The Feast'.
I have actually been told thet "it's o.k. for wifes to come on the weekend, but they can't come to the evening event" (feast). So I didn't go.
Cheers
Les