"It is done with the intent to control women" - and that is seen by the people involved as what is best for them and for society. As the saying goes "the road to hell is paved with good intentions". I'm sure far more harm is done in this world by people who believe what they are doing is than by people who believe what they are doing is wrong.

That doesn't mean we shouldn't try to do what is right - but just because it feels right or we've been told it's right, that doesn't mean that's the case.