I wish the best to all of you who are coping with this behaviour. A close relative of mine began cutting when she was twenty, a while after her father died in front of her. She had tried unsuccessfully to resuscitate him, and it seems to have preyed on her mind for a very long time, resulting in depression, self-esteem issues, and self-harming. It took nearly ten years for her to completely recover, but she is now a stable and happy working mother. There is hope.