Good God, Spaw. Going through it with one's girlfriend is bad enough...I can hardly even think how bad it must be going through it with one's child.

As you say, "Not all of the problems are bad parenting." No, not by any means. There are all kinds of reasons for it.

I spent so much time depressed when I was a teenager that it was practically my standard state of mind. My reaction was passive...I would just withdraw from people and go farther in. It doesn't surprise me much at all when I hear about stuff like Columbine. That's what happens when the inner pain bursts outward toward others instead of just drawing in deeper and hiding itself.