Janie told us:

Maticulously correct grammer is not something I consider to be an absolute of good writing.

Meticulously correct grammer spelling, however should be considered an absolute of good writing!

Actually, grammar (despite what our grade-school teachers may have told us) is not that absolute in itself. Every one of us speaks at least one (probably more) dialect of the language, and perhaps writes a somewhat different dialect. And each of those dialects has its own grammar, understood and followed by its speakers/writers.

Cockney has its own understood rules. Gullah has its own understood rules. Ebonics (remember that?) has its own understood rules. Geordie has its own understood rules. And on and on. The set of rules we generally refer to as "good grammar" represents an attempt to codify what is expected in high, formal English.

Every one of those grammars (and there are hundreds if not thousands of them) is subject to change over time. The formal grammar I was taught sixty years ago is recognized today by the foremost English mavens as severely outdated in many respects. What passes today for educated high English grammar will be laughably outdated in another sixty--actually, in another fifteen or twenty--years.

The trick is to recognize at what level of formality one intends to write or speak, and to what audience, and in what dialect.   Then apply the appropriate grammar to that standard.

Dave Oesterreich