Wouldn't everyone be better off if elder was in a nursing home or assisted living?
Although this is definitely NOT a thread posing that question, it is THE question most adult children and aging parents must eventually consider-- and the hardest one for either the parent or the adult children to think about in a logical, detached way. It's also an intensely personal journey for each and every family, and neither one that Mudcat can hope to address accurately nor one that's any of our business.
As a philosphical proposition, such a question might do well in a thread of its own.