I have been working on and off with the men I live with with for 10 years. It is very hard, slightly less so if there are other people involved as a third opinion can be a decider. I am now pleased that we both have seperate projects, but still work togeter on The Joseph Shnider Set and go regular sessions together. I know one couple who played and rowed together for years and ended up giving up living together, so that they could carry on playing together, and have carried on for 6 years with no sign of giving up.