We have been singing together for 38 years, the last twenty professionally. While either of us is free to comment on anything, we divide up the ultimate responsibility for everything using two criteria. The one who does the task best is responsible or, the one who hates it the least is responsible. For example, on stage Jerry is always responsible for the set list because he has a better memory for this stuff (but a worse memory for everything else). Bev is always responsible for keeping the audience attentive (we play in schools) because her class management skills are much better. Jerry is always responsible for the sound system because he is a recovering electronics engineer. Bev is always responsible for dealing with school personnel because her people skills are much better. At home, Jerry does the dishes because he hates it less than Bev but Bev cleans the bathrooms because she hates it less than Jerry. Etc, etc, etc.

This scheme seems to work most of the time. That's how we've managed to stay married for 40 years.

Bev and Jerry