Geez, Don....calm down. It's more important to find some common ground here than it is to keep fighting over what someone else thinks you or someone meant when they said whatever they said about what someone else just said. It ends up going around and around forever like a dog chasing its own tail.

I've just spoken up in your defence here, and I'm suggesting that both you and Carol try being less reactive to each other.

As for "taking sides"...sure...we all have a viewpoint. That's natural. The thing is, one must avoid allowing one's viewpoint to turn one into someone who judges other people negatively in the blink of an eye.