Good thoughts coming at you from here, too, Tami. When you and your mother are safely back, we can compare notes. At least my ordeal and legal hassles with my first husband all took place in Maine, and not on opposite sides of the country. (Oh, but let me tell you about dealing with the assistant DA of York County...)
Been there, done that, got the experience for my resume...they say it builds character. (I dunno. I thought I was enough of a character.)