well I do think probably in the English school system, it is spelled out in no uncertain terms that that there is no future in kicking a ball around. Sometimes with more than a dash of ruthlessness. Lots of kids get to fifteen and cherish ideas of being a pro footballer, and I think most sports teachers are familiar with the scenario of having to relieve kids of their illusions.

kids growing up - its never easy.

no doubt we do get it wrong, our parents did, and our kids will.