Donuel, thanks, but I am not often in perfect accord with anyone, so I wouldn't assume that we are, too fast.

Ivor, yes, I agree that babies learn far more in their earliest months (and far more quickly) than people may realize; they get a foundation there but once they hit group dynamics, they hit whatever foundation the other kids have gotten as well as the grown kids who run the system and who have accumulated their own dose of brokenness; a lot of bad stuff has been distilled by then for the young ones to confront without their parents nearby to reinforce the good stuff-- it can overwhelm much of the best of the early parenting unless and until hard work is done to reclaim that foundation.

~Susan