I found this thread late, but I do want to say: -

1. It is not really my place to say so, Kelida, for I have only been coming here a year or so, but I think you should be welcome. Do not be put off by some over-hostile reactions.

2. The attraction of the sexes (and sometimes its lack of mutuality) has probably been the basis of more song than any other single thing. It must be an appropriate subject for discussion here.

3. People go out with each other because they fancy each other and to pretend otherwise is unrealistic. It has been said (I think it might have been Montserrat) that "No man ever meets a woman without measuring the sexual potential between them. It may be zero but he still measures it." He was probably right (or would have been if speaking of heterosexual men meeting women - I suspect that for homosexual men, meeting men may be the same). Society creates obstacles to deciding in any sort of natural way whether and when to resolve the sexual tension created. Some women trade on it (not commercially and openly, I can respect that) but by playing games for advantage, and I think the less of them for it. Make up your mind, and be clear about it - and try not to change your mind it makes for problems. Also be aware of the problems which may be created.

4. It is perfectly possible for women to be sexually direct. I had better not specify who it was said to me (on a first date) "I think it's time we went to bed". It didn't often happen, I was glad it did, and I never respected her any less for it. It's fairly rare at 17, however.