It's not just the first year that's tough - it's all of them. Many of you know that we lost an infant son Patrick just a few days before Christmas. So a holiday based on the birth of a baby boy can bring up sad memories every year. Esp when they're singing about "sleep in heavenly peace". Patricks twin brother Brendan just turned 7 and lost his first tooth. So we celibrate what we can - and remember what we have to. And just deal with it the best we can. And hope we don't run into any families with twin boys.