Concerned loving parent, as others have pointed out, this subject has been discussed in some considerable detail previously and members have put their mudcat identities to some very personal experiences and viewpoints.

To reopen such often emotive discussion as a 'guest' could be considered to be the action of a 'troll'. Now that may be a serious diservice to a genuine desire to know peoples feelings on this issue but I think you will find every answer you need on this issue covered already if, as you say, it was an honest question.