Once a parent spanks then the parent looses all leverage...

When my son Will (Ben to you, don't ask...)who at age 3 ot so started hitting his mother, who BTW had a black belt and was teaching karate, I just went into his rrom and got real close in his face and told him that if he ever hit his mother again that I was gonna put a whup on him that would last him a life time to get over...

Now, for the most part, I am a very peacefull person so me doing that impressed upon him that hitting his mom was not something he should be doing and he stopped...

Might of fact, I believe that one threat was so "sold", that Will never ever did much wrong again and I'm sure that to this very day he remembers that night... I sure do...

It's not the punishment but the *unknown* about he punishement that is the deterrant...

B~