I said nothing about 'terror'.



btw, I mentioned situations above where the child 'won't', and is likely to be spamked, normally.

When my children wouldn't, what I sometimes took to doing was giving them a hug. Then I'd ask them again to do whatever; they'd just do it. the thing was they wanted something else first, only their way of trying to get what they wanted first wasn't obvious.

That's why I say there can be any number of things going on in any person-to-person encounter, even where children were involved. Even especially where children are involved.

   Ivor