Mary, I aboslutely agree with most of what you say in your post and luckily it's a job I don't have to do, but:

"Their appearance (NOT their looks, but whether or not they were dressed neatly and appropriately, conveying respect for the venue and the audience)"

Are we talking smart but casual (slacks, sports jackets and cravats) or lounge suits and the full works? And ballgowns and tiaras for the ladies? I want to come to your club - sounds like I'll get to fulfil all my Great Gatsby fantasies... Have to get myself a short back and sides first, obviously... :^)

Only messin'...

Cheers

Nigel