It's a conundrum, isn't it? I've had relatives (mostly female relatives) who spent their entire lives trying simply desperately not to offend anyone, and they usually ended up doing all kinds of stuff they in no way wanted to do, experiencing maximum stress all the time, finally freaking out utterly and ending up at odds with all their kids, their siblings, their spouses and most of the other people they knew. Sheer misery was thus accomplished for all, in the name of not offending anyone. ;-)