Steve, God is for everyone "whatever you want to define it/him/her as". That's how it works. The way you define "God" is what God is for you.

That's the point. If your definition of God is small, mean, and exclusive, then it results in behaviours that are small, mean, and exclusive, agreed?

That's my argument with the conventional separated view of God...it's small, mean, and usually very exclusive. It puts a few things in a little cultural bowl, and says, "These are the things of my God, the only true God, and they are sacred. but all the rest is profane. My God is the only God."

That's not true.

People like to believe stuff like that. It makes them feel really special. It makes them feel safe. It makes them look down on others who don't share their specific beliefs. Such an attitude is small, mean, and exclusive.